Rapes, corruption and 'us'

Who am I? What is it that makes me a certain kind of individual? Sometimes I am furious without any reason. Sometimes I am kind. Every individual shows different attributes of his personality. Every one of us is different from each other, yet similar to each other. Who am I?

I am a hollow mind, a blank conscious; filled with the experiences of the past and dreams for the future, throughout this journey called life.  The personality that I carry is nothing but an accumulation of what I borrow from the personalities of others around me plus my own experiences in life. Being born in a particular culture, sect, religion, society, etc. shapes our personality according to that and helps us in becoming what we are as adults. We borrow all the ideas and thoughts in our mind from the outside world. Hence, what we become is because of everything around us and the experiences they bring along with them.

I am a little innocence of my childhood, naughtiness of my teens and politics of my youth. If, gradually all my experiences are taken out of me; everything that I learnt from this world is taken back from me systematically, what will be I left with?

A naught- ‘Shunya’

This is what I am in my true self ‘Shunya’. Like an infant who enters this world is neither a Hindu, nor a Muslim. He is neither a believer, nor an atheist.

In addition, nobody is a sage or a criminal by birth.

So if I commit a crime. Say a murder or a rape. Who shall be hold responsible for that? Is it just me? On the other hand, is it everyone and everything that made me a criminal? Are those parents not responsible, who failed to impart basic morals in me? We all must have heard a story by Aesop during our childhood days. The story talked about a young thief and his mother. In the story, the boy is condemned to execution for stealing and, on the day of his execution, he bites his mothers ear. He says that it is a punishment because she did not rebuke him for doing such things during his childhood; this is why he became a thief when he grew up. Now let us assume that the parents are innocent, because they brought their child in the best manner and were ignorant about all his negative deeds. What about those friends who lured me into watching porn for the first time, those item numbers and derogatory songs in our movies, those neighbours who do not allow their girls to leave the house, the society which encourages the attitude of ignoring the ‘mistakes’ of boys. Not to forget the system and the government, which failed to provide me a good education and robbed me the opportunity of becoming a better person? Are they all responsible? They should get punishment or not?

Greed, it is in our blood. Everyone is busy in running after money, power and more money. Anyone would jump to an opportunity of adding more money to his wealth, even if it is at the cost of others. However, the greed of getting more is in all of us; it has nothing to do with the people around us. This is what we all want to believe. But, what about that rich boy in my junior school, who could afford a bicycle, while I had to walk all the way to school?, that condescending look on the face of a man whose luxury car stopped right next to my second hand motorcycle? Moreover, that well equipped institution, which refused to take me in because I could not afford the heave fees they charged, the whole society that judges you according to the number of zeros in your salary amount and not according to your talent or intelligence. Are they all responsible for my greed or they all get away, just because they are incognito?


So the point is that how is punishing a person going to change the society? How is it going to bring a shift in the thought process of people? Will the fear of gallows plant the seed of respect for women in the hearts of men? Can the fear prison kill someone’s greed? If a criminal is hanged, or jailed, do we kill or imprison the experiences and influences that made him a criminal, or do we just kill the ‘Shunya’?
I do not speak in favour of those who do wrong but it is dubious to believe that fear of death or imprisonment can stop all these crimes. It is been mentioned in books like ‘Quran’, to punish a person who commits a crime. Did these thousands of years old laws change our world for better? In fact, our society is becoming more evil, greedier and more immoral with time. Should our jails not be like a rehabilitation centre for the inmates? We all know about Ratnakar, the robber who used to rob people after killing them. Later, because of a lesson taught to him by Narada, he became a big saint. The world knows him by the name of ‘Valmiki’, the one who wrote ‘Ramayana’. We have heard many similar stories, which are been taught to us by our culture or religion; the story of ‘Angulimal’ and the great King Ashoka. All these stories teach us that even the worst person can become a saint, if given a chance.

So now, is it not necessary, that we shun this attitude of blaming others and start sharing the responsibility as a whole? Will it not be better that we changed ourselves before thinking of changing others? Will that not be a concrete measure to make ours a better world to live in? We all should understand that when a person commits a crime, or does something wrong, it shows the failure of our society. It shows that there is a fault, a glitch in the society, and the way it is functioning because a man is just a manifestation of the society he lives in.

It is time to focus on what Mahatma said, “Be the change, you wish to see in the world”. 

Earning or Learning?

Connaught place is a very well known place for all the Delhiites and for people from other states as well. Located in central Delhi and probably the most well planned place in the capital of India, Connaught place is like heart of this city. The symbol of sacrifice and national integrity India gate, parliament of India, Rashtrapati Bhavan and many such structures are located inside or around C.P. The inner circle is famous for all the restaurants, cafes, shops, places to hang out and obviously not to forget, our very own Palika Bazar and Central Park. Huge numbers of people visit the place everyday and this place certainly represents the culture of Delhi in number of ways.

These two kids were so excited while telling me that they know the meaning of an English word which was taught to them by a stranger 'DIDI'

And from there it all started..we need your suggestions to do something for them :)

If you have visited the place, I am sure that you must have seen a contrasting picture too. Among all the people from different backgrounds and cultures, we also see dozens of little children begging on the roads. Perhaps, a lot of us chose to ignore them. However, two well aware and responsible citizens, who are also students of Delhi University, chose not to ignore this situation. Instead, they decided to take out time and gather more information about this.

On 16th February 2014, on my request Karan Kakkar and Vandana Khosla went to C.P., not to hang out but to do a little research about these kids. They were overwhelmed with the experience and managed to jot down a few points.

They interviewed a street kid (pen seller), a police constable and a security guard. The kid’s name, as he told them, was Abdul. He belonged to ‘Narela’ in Delhi and came to C.P. everyday along with his mother and friends. They all travel from their village in a train. They usually start from their places at 4:00 in the morning. He told them that his father is an auto driver and so he comes home only once in a couple of months. When asked about studies, he said that his mother wanted him to attend a regular school and get a proper education. However, he chose to sell pens because this way he earns 250-300 Rs. Everyday and he can support his family. Nevertheless, after persuading him to talk more and share his feelings, he agreed that he would join a school if all the other children did the same.

The constable also talked about his limitations and problems when asked about it. He was although happy about the fact that someone wanted to hear his or her perspective about the whole situation. Speaking about NGOs, he said that these organisations were somewhere promoting these activities by being over protective for these people. He also shared a personal incident, where he talked about how everything backfired when he decided to take an action. He told that once he tried to admit a beggar in rehabilitation centre. He was dragging that person to his van from outside the famous Hanuman temple and the beggar hurt himself intentionally as he was high on drugs. The NGOs took notice of this incident and he had to face an enquiry because of the whole incident.

He also talked to us about all the different ways or tactics used by these kids to get money from people. He also shared that sometimes these kids steal mobile phones and wallets whenever they get a chance. He raised a very important point about the ignorance of youth towards all these problems. He said that if the people stopped giving money to these beggars, then why they would continue to beg here. This is a very simple thing to do but still the picture does not change.

There are hundreds of organisations working for street kids, but the impact seems rather negligible in C.P. In addition, RTE is failing too. Both these young people invite the whole student fraternity to join hands and do something for this cause.